On the day he left he text me saying how much he’s going to miss me and he knows I’m going to be okay. In addition, it’s the best way to get even closer to him. We hit it off instantly. So I kind of tried pulling away subtly, because I wasn’t sure how my hand ended up in his (I’m thinking FWB don’t do these things), but he pulled my hand back then massages it and did not let go. We didn’t talk much and I didn’t have much to say. He apologised and said he had been busy and had just forgotten to reply. He didnt say no. Look on the bright side, you’re that much closer to knowing what you really want in a man and the guy for you might be waiting around the corner. It’s possible he may not be there but if he is, I would be cordial with him. But now it seems things have slowed . It could be the distance, it’s tough to keep it going or he may have just realized it wasn’t going to work. I feel he is a perfect marrying partner but I can’t figure out that initial barrier he has whatsoever. Empower yourself and keep busy and keep having a life. If he was meaner, it might be a sign he was getting frustrated/angered that he wasn’t being heard. I feel like that one argument made him look at me different or something and it wasn’t my fault . I know people have a bad reputation about cancers and I agree we tend to be manipulative but only when we are insecure and dumb and young. And reading various articles on the internet do not help in any way!!! For now, just give him the space. I turn around and see him by himself, we make eye contact, but I just turned back around and kept talking to the guy friend I was with. After a while, the communication went strong and later on he stopped talking to me. He needs to show much more interest that what he’s doing now and you deserve much better than what he’s giving you. Shall I hold on and see if it goes somewhere? A guy AND girl who has nothing to hide won’t really have a problem divulging this information. No, most do not say things without thought. Mirror his actions and if you feel him initiating less then do the same to regain the balance that you had before. Well the next day not one text or call. I try not to text but it’s hard to go more than 4-5 days without texting him. Then a few weeks later he called me and said he wasn’t going to work because his house was a mess and wanted to know if I would mind coming over to clean to make some extra money to go on vacation. Haha. He texts me everyday ( no phone calls) he’s promised me there is nobody else, he also sends me flowers and gifts. I told him to delete all the pics he had of me and while he was at it to loose my number.and hung up on him. Well, if he’s on Match then he’s probably still looking and keeping his options open. The more time that passes by, he might feel misled. It sounds like he needs to work on himself before he can commit to someone. Even though it’s over between them, he probably needs time to sort things out privately and needs some time to heal. Share your life with him and make him feel a part of it. We spent a lot of time together and we texted all day and night. LOL He called immediately and excused his recent behavior, by saying he is going through a lot right now, and I should not worry. We were intimate. I’m not going to pressure him. He and I had met about 5 times when were 18-19 years and fell madly in love but my traditional family situation did not let me make the right decision to marry him which he told me he wanted to. We’ve gone out, not officially on dates, several times. WHAT IS HAPPENING???? He let you know in advance so you wouldn’t worry about it. We’ve gone on a date again recently and it was great but I’m sorta (well really) confused. Looks like he is going through a rough patch in life which could be their problem and has not to do with me. By this time though i had started to like him. It can really be traumatic and difficult to come to terms with. I saw him yesterday and saw he had a hickey on his neck. She said she wanted nothing to do with him but I noticed after I showed her a video of my Yorkie playing with her ex she started acting weird. I don’t see why he needed to reach out at all if it wasn’t something. Another thing, it could be that he’s hesitating because he knows you’ll bring it up. He may just be being friendly. Remember, that this just isn’t his decision, it’s yours, too. I’d let it go for now and get busy with your friends and personal life. & Cappy Man knows this. If he tells you he needs space, it’s not going to help to fight it, or try to convince him he doesn’t, or try to get him to come back to you by guilting him or making him feel bad about pulling away. Hello, do you think he was a unevolved cap or just didn’t have a emotional attachment to me? It’s tough because they’re just slow and methodical but he needs to be the one to do it. After these two “wierd dates” we haven’t spoken as much as we used to… I don’t want to embarass myself… But anyway, I tried to sent him a text 2 weeks ago where I asked if he wanted to meet up soon to bowl or something like that. I have been dating a cappy for 3 months and things have been going well until the other day . Personally, I dislike fwb situations and have never been in one. He’s been so confused with life and our situation but we both agree we’d still be loyal in matters to having each other’s hearts. Is he interested or stringing me along? I also think he’s finally started to trust me. His situation got so bad that he had to stay with me for a little while, it was fine with me since I adored him. Me being very traditional was skeptical but decided to try it. He Just kept quiet and only agreed with me when I said that his actions contradict his words. He said, “ok babe, no problem”. It’s hard to know if he’s really done with me. This was the first time he’s told me he misses me. After sometime I left to the Middle East to study which is 6hrs away from my country and at that time I wasn’t really giving the capricorn dude attention cus I hadn’t seen him before so it was awkward . You could just stay off FB for awhile. Keep in mind We had discussed a business venture, so when I didnt get a text all day, I texted him and said, I had been researching the biz and it sounds like a good investment. It has become an on/off thing. We have went on some dates, one date in particular, he wanted me to meet his cousins and they met us there. It sounds like he might need the reassurance. This really is a great site. Especially as he is a sportsman and lived few cities away and I am not a celebrity but educated and from a very respectable background. Hopefully soon he’ll decide to make your relationship official. He was then gone for 2 months during which time we had occasional texts (initiated by me) and occasional social media contact. Keep yourself busy and go out with friends and spend some time doing things that you enjoy. Perhaps a breather is in order until he gets his divorce wrapped up. First off, you were just being real with him and sharing how you felt. So I sent him a message just saying that I was sorry and that I really appreciated him in my life and if he ever wants to talk, I’m here… I know he read the message, but again nothing! But he followed up by saying he didn’t want to miss out on a good woman so we continued as a couple. One time he met up with his ex at the dog park because she owed him money for the house they rented together and to see a dog but he didn’t tell me about it until after which is kind of an issue but he told me and said i was his and he was mine and he liked me so much. Give him some time to miss you. Kind of like that quote “people won’t remember what you say but how you made them feel” But I’m not sure it seems with me he has a bad feeling now from me confronting him about feeling used. I’m starting to think that he only saw you as just a friend. Didn’t mean to make you feel unwanted or like I don’t have feelings for you because i do. So when I woke up I answered hello. I made myself so available and committed to this guy. He has suggested a couple of lunch dates but bailed on one & did not confirm the second. I have patience so understanding will come along. Upon the eight month mark I decided to re-evaluate the relationship and decide whether or not this was how I wanted to continue with my life. So if you were distancing yourself then he felt it and followed suit. Jeannie, Stay calm, cool and collected when he does this (within a reasonable time frame). I’d keep it light and friendly for as long as you feel motivated to (by him). Thanks, Linda! Well now, today is the first time where I haven’t heard from him at all. Our initial interaction spanned an entire weekend (although he informed me that we had previously met during the summer, ironically at my own birthday party), when we celebrated a mutual friend’s birthday party. Something isn’t right there either. And you always have good insight and have been right from before when he came back. If I let some else close to me, he will think I was not true to him and not worth his attention? I then went on to ask if I’d be seeing him for the weekend, and that if he had other plans that was cool. He responded, “I am in the house, so if you want to join me you’re welcome”. I really like this man. A short period of a few hours made me extremely anxious and I texted him. The only thing I can say is if it got too intense/too much pressure about “where this is going,” he might have had some second thoughts about how quickly it was going. I’m not too sure here since I’m not exactly sure what it’s about. He then wanted to meet up for lunch soon, we did. Hi STILL NO ANSWER!!!…. So I figured what would I have to loose, so I went to his ex wife. He can randomly send me a message by 7.30 in the morning, telling me he misses me or inquiring about my wellbeing, i sent him a message that i wanted to spend ny birthday with him, he claimed not to have seen it and apologised. You might also like: My Small bathroom makeover project! If he reaches out, take it slow and don’t let him rush you into anything. He most likely will NOT volunteer that info. Not only is this not typical of a Capricorn man’s behavior, an excessive want for privacy is characteristic of someone with a secret. Five days later, he emailed me this morning. You need time to get over him and it’s unfair for him to think you can continue so quickly as friends. Okay, he’s in his 30s. I don’t believe he’s seeing anyone else. So I won’t respond until I see if he’s really loves and wants me or he just want to chase and to be chased like kids (I am not free for that, to be honest). Zolaa, We dated several months, but he was very quiet, seen each other around three times/month (him or me asking for the date). I didnt say anything. While I was asleep I felt some thing touching my face so when I woke up he was on his side looking at me and touching me on the face and moving my hair. He said, “There’s nothing i can say to make this better.” I realize that this is difficult. So I would say,go on worth you life, if he is interested HE WILL come back. We had this sort of natural communication, where he didn’t need to say a lot for me to understand him and vice versa. But I think this all happened bcoz of me at first, coz I was the one to ask fr brkup but I was just kiddin and he got serious. Three times is not very many and it seems like you’re getting very attached. now, 5 months ago, i saw him alone (and yes, me was after a break up from a long-term relationship, too) we hung out for a few days, and he ended up asking my cell no. It’s been 3 months for you now- Any luck? I think he might be going through a difficult time and he just needs alone time. On his last day in town we was suppose to meet up, but I had to work and he when I got off he had to leave so we didn’t say goodbye, that really made me sad and also mad. I called him the other day and texted and I guess he was still at work wish I wasn’t sure of . Thank you so much for your reply! he will order food.He didnt want me to do anything , but relax. its hard to tell. Basically, he will show you and not really say it, especially at first and at 2 months, it’s very early in the relationship so he might not be as comfortable revealing anything. If you’ve come to the point where he’s pulling away after getting close (from being intimate or sharing his feelings) then let him pull away! He should also reciprocate your questions and take an interest in the things you like too. If he likes you and wants to continue seeing you again, he will make an effort to call and reach out. Sometimes he’d show up sonetimes not. It could also be possible that he’s just very private and wants to keep some mystery but I can totally understand your concern here. I’m trying not to overwhelm things and just go with the flow but he kind of put me as a top priority. For me, I usually would wait about a week (2 at the max) and if no response I would move on. Give him some time though, he may work up to it soon. But the relationship has not been working between the two of them, they look like at the verge of divorce. He picked me up swung me around, pinned me to the back of the truck and kissed me, and I kissed back. Any insight/advice to this very different male would be much appreciated. So we both go to our prospective worlds and begin to deal with our own “New Norms”. I didn’t push and showed support for whatever he wanted to do. But then, flips like a light switch and will be really sweet and loving and supportive and gives me this smile that just melts me. At one point he started to prefer going out in much more private locals, yet still, nothing more. After that we went on two dates, both at his place. These are very cautious men. He may realize this which could be the reason for his hesitation. Did you ask him? I’m glad you found it helpful. To add to it, he sort of showed me he wanted me badly physically and I was too naive to understand what it meant at the time. YIKES! Things got a little off track when I said I needed to talk to him about the fact that I was dating someone else. I did text him and tell him that he was my friend no matter what and I wasn’t going to let his actions make me not be a nice person. You just crossed my mind, hope you are doing well” He replied about an hour later (one of the longest hours of my life) “Hello, im fine how are you? The bar was busy and he was in and out without saying hi or introducing himself then later apologized and said his friends didn’t want to stay. Are capys playing games? I waited a month and texted him that i understood things moved fast and it was overwhelming he then tried to come over but i was out of town. If you don’t talk every single day, I also would NOT worry. He sounds incredibly immature, petty and not the least bit ready for anything serious just by that comment alone. We were attracted to each other instantly. We’ve known one another for well over a decade. If I were you, I’d be as honest as possible about your current status. A perfect husband material, he will take care of all your needs. Also, don’t stress yourself out about this! Remove yourself from this situation and give yourself some space as well. Keep in mind that he also needs time to MISS you. We got in a fight last time I was there over his actions. So I did but waited to talk the next morning. Like he’s say lets move on separately but he didn’t even think he just unrationally ended after one fight and says he’s done and he’s checked out. He told me that I was to attaching and I texted to much and he stopped talking to me. He spends about half his time upstate in the country with no reception so we started emailing. So I am happy that he has the Yorkie in his life because they give so much unconditional love. It might be a nice gesture just to say hello and let him know you are interested. He was everything I was looking for. he said no he would. Still have feelings for him at this point, but since I decided that I wasn’t going to engage, I don’t. So he did but slipped once and I yelled at him and told him never again. Im not planning to reach out to him because i feel he should come back and initiat the first move. She was texting him to go off him self. i just want to be alone and work. I am used to guys being more aggressive.Is he being a capricorn,is it bc he hasnt been working, or is he just not that into me?I have heard that when capricorns are interested, you know and they chase. You’re basically doing his job for him and if you continue, it’s going to leave you feeling really off balance and frustrated. If he thinks I’m a floozy I want him to know I’m not that casual about these things, and this is true. I’m a Leo, and kinda got upset, because how dare him just disappear?! Another thing.. didn’t his friend say he had a girlfriend? You need to be honest with yourself and with him. If i like u or hate u i say it, no turning back! It’s just something that can be an indication of disinterest. I’ve been there for him too, did sweet things for him, but it’s always ME doing it for him. I was in shock on the phone and then kind of reacted emotionally from being so blindsided in text messages. as of last evening, i had to contact him to pass on a message on a topic that does not involve our relationship and he replied in reference to that.